Conscious Thoughts

Thoughts and messages I channel during meditation and when I feel connected to Source.

The Caveman Present Moment Exercise

The Caveman Present Moment Exercise

Cartoon caveman weight lifting

The purpose of this exercise is to understand what is important to your present life and what is a distraction to you aligning with your true self.  We have a lot of distractions in our modern world that keeps us from the joy has to offer.  I see a lot of new diets that focus on the caveman eating patterns.  This is beneficial because today’s food is filled with pesticides, hormones and artificial additives.


Just like the food being offered the social interactions and view of ourselves are being polluted by artificial distractions.  To connect to your true self and realize your dreams you need to separate yourself from what is distracting you.  During this exercise, I want you to imagine you live in the caveman period of humanity.  Take away anything in your mind that relates to your current lifestyle of a modern human.  To make this fun lets take our current worries back in time to this period as a way to leave the past behind and return to our natural way of being which is living in the present moment.

You can do this exercise in your mind or on a sheet of paper.  Start out by breathing in through the nose and out through the mouth.  This exercise works best in a meditative state but can also be practiced in your mind at any time of day.  As I start this exercise, I imagine myself going further and further back in time to the Paleo period.  I envision myself in a vast lush jungle with the sounds of exotic long extinct wildlife.


When I am stressed and distracted I find my mind can immediately begin to worry about modern concerns.  Sometimes it can be, how will I pay rent next month?  Possibly it’s regarding a deadline for an article I wanted to finish that I hadn’t.  At the same time, I imagine I hear the roar of a ferocious T-Rex dinosaur.  He seems to be attracted to my worrying thoughts.


The more I worry the closer he seems to be.  This T-Rex finds worry delicious and fun to hunt.  Knowing that he loves these distractions, I throw them behind me to keep him satisfied with my worrying treats.  It’s similar to a bee that is flying near you.  It is more attracted to you because you fear it.  With worry comes the monsters, which is ego and doubt.  Envisioning these details helps you remove yourself from your worry and allows you to see that your lack of certainty is self created.

So, I release more and more distractions as bait for the nearby predator.  Cavemen don’t worry about an email from their boss or about a deadline (thrown to the predator).  They can’t waste time worrying about why their crush didn’t call back.  There are plenty of mates in the jungle (thrown to the predator).  The survival of the caveman is dependent on what he really needs and what helps him survive.  His or her survival is dependent on sustenance, safety, certainty and clarity in who he/she is and what must be done.  That certainty is what allows him to survive and not only survive but thrive in this world.  If he were to spend time worrying about how will he find dinner, will he be safe, where will he sleep in a month, he would be consumed by predators when his guard is let down by these distractions.

What is this blind belief that he will be ok?  Where do the abilities come from that allow him to survive without worry?  It is his faith and certainty in who he is and what he must do that allows him to survive.

Be like the caveman and emerge from the overgrown dark jungle to a beautiful lush valley free of predators and worry.


In this lush valley predators may not enter.  There are waterfalls and abundant fruit trees.  Enjoy the experience of being safe and without worry.  Allow yourself to let go and trust in the fact that well being is always flowing your way.

Temporary Roles

Temporary Roles


I was recently reading “A New Earth” by Eckhart Tolle and he was touching on the subject of the roles we play in life.  The topic that really struck me was the idea of temporary roles.  These are roles and personality shifts we do when in situations that we don’t feel completely comfortable being ourselves in.  Here is a passage from that chapter

“If you are awake enough, aware enough, to be able to observe how you interact with other people, you may detect subtle changes in your speech, attitude, and behavior depending on the person you are interacting with. At first, it may be easier to observe this in others; then, you may also detect it in yourself. 

The way in which you speak to the chairman of the company may be different in subtle ways from how you speak to the janitor. How you speak to a child may be different from how you speak to an adult. Why is that? You are playing roles. You are not yourself, neither with the chairman nor with the janitor or the child. When you walk into a store to buy something, when you go to a restaurant, the bank, the post office, you may find yourself slipping into pre-established social roles. You become a customer and speak and act as such. And you may be treated by the salesperson or waiter, who is also playing a role, as a customer. 

A range of conditioned patterns of behavior come into effect between two human beings that determine the nature of the interaction. Instead of human beings, conceptual mental images are interacting with each other. The more identified people are with their respective roles, the more inauthentic the relationships become.

You have a mental image not only of who the other person is, but also of who you are, especially in relation to the person you are interacting with. So you are not relating with that person at all, but who you think you are is relating to who you think the other person is and vice versa. The conceptual image your mind has made of yourself is relating to its own creation, which is the conceptual image it has made of the other person. The other person’s mind has probably done the same, so every egoic interaction between two people is in reality the interaction between four conceptual mind-made identities that are ultimately fictions. It is therefore not surprising there is so much conflict in relationships. There is no true relationship.”

This made me think beyond how we create these roles with other people but how we create the roles in how we interact with ourselves.  How often do we live our lives based on the age we are, what is appropriate for this age and how we see ourselves at this age?  How about when money isn’t coming in as fast as the bills are piling up?  We don’t feel good about these situations and feel unsuccessful which then correlates to how we value ourselves.  The same can happen when a relationship is deteriorating and without that love the love for ourselves is lacking.

All of these situations are temporary situations that create temporary roles and temporary views of ourselves.  Yet we let it define and steer us on our current path.  How can you expect someone to treat you a certain way when you can’t do that for yourself?  How can you attract a more abundant life, a happy relationship, a feeling of confidence when the role you have chosen is not in alignment with the role you want to play?

This concept goes back to what Eckhart discussed in how we interact with others.  If you treat the bank teller like a person who is there just to serve you, that you cannot relate to or interact with except for transactions, how can you be your true self if you temporarily leave your true self?  Your true self should always be present in the present moment.  Just as easy as it is to say something nice or crack a joke to the teller its just as easy to shift the view of yourself in situations you feel you can’t be your true self in.  Your true self doesn’t feel anger, sadness, disappointment in yourself so, why should you be temporarily blinded to how you should be interacting with yourself.

Temporary Role Play Exercise

An easy exercise to do when you are feeling less than adequate or not treating yourself kindly is to put what is bothering you into a role, give it a sex possibly a name and interact with it on a temporary basis.  Let’s say you are broke and overwhelmed with debt, let’s name the debt Bob.  You probably don’t feel too good about yourself because of the situation you are in with Bob.  To help guide you out of that situation you need to feel better about yourself to then be able to find a solution to Bob.  Let’s put Bob into a role as a person you are interacting with.  When faced with Bob you probably wouldn’t want to be best friends with him, take him out for a drink or even tell him your deepest secrets.  You probably feel threatened by Bob, resentful and intimidated.

This is where you can shift your attitude towards this debt role.  See him as an equal, see him as someone you could interact with that isn’t defined as having sway over you.  When you see Bob as equal as someone that can’t harm you, someone that values your opinion Bob isn’t so hard to talk to and interact with anymore.  You can then begin to see Bob as a temporary situation that you have control in changing.  You can shift your attitude towards Bob to something more productive and less damaging.  In that moment you are being your true self and able to attract a more positive manifestation which will help you resolve what you felt was self limiting.  You can then say thanks Bob for the chat time for me to go and shift your attention away from his presence.


The way you see money is the way money sees you

The way you see money is the way money sees you


“Most people have put anything that earns money in the category of the things that I have to do. And that is why the money often comes so hard.

If you are wise enough to follow the trail of good-feeling thoughts by deliberately looking for positive aspects along your way, you will come into vibrational alignment with who-you-really-are and with the things you really want, and once you do that, the Universe must deliver to you a viable means to achieve your desires.”


Excerpted from the workshop: Money and the Law of Attraction on August 31, 2008

When you think you have to go to work and you have to do a certain number of things to earn money you put out the energy of I don’t like doing this but must.  When you surround the thought of earning money with a negative energy, you can’t be surprised when you don’t receive back what you feel you are putting out.

There are those jobs we might not see as our dream job but you can always find a positive spin on aspects of your job.  You can be grateful for the people you work with, the area you work in, the fact you could be in a job that pays less or has more hours.  If you start to find little things that do work you will not focus on what doesn’t work.  When you focus on the positive sides of how you earn your money you will start to receive abundance based on that positivity.

We can view an abundance of money as a blessing but you need to view the way you receive money and how money is used in your life as a positive thing as well.  If you associate money with having to work, using it to pay those bills that are too high, seeing money and debt as being related to each other, money will not flow towards you.

Start by waking up each day and before you get ready for work think of three things that are working for you that day.  Think of the time you get to listen to music on your drive in as a blessing.  Possibly think of why you got into this specific job and what initially excited you about it.  After a few days of this you will notice your mood changes and think of the way you earn money as a choice and a blessing.

Just my Luck…Can you create your own luck?

Just my Luck…Can you create your own luck?


When was the last time you felt lucky or even when did you last feel unlucky?  When was the last time you explained someone’s good fortune as being a result of good luck?  A lot of us have walked down the street and found a $20 bill or even a piece of jewelry, SCORE!  Usually if I find it in a store or somewhere the person could possibly retrieve it I always hand it to the store owner or lost and found.  Can’t risk unbalancing the karmic scales and end up on the unlucky scale.  If the person who lost it comes back guess it was that person’s lucky day all on the account of me being honest.  If it’s on the street with no owner in sight guess it’s my lucky day.

The belief of luck isn’t something I don’t think exists but it does brings up the question about the opposite issue, those unlucky times. You’ve heard the saying “luck is on my side”, but how do I get luck to pick me to be on his team more often?  Luck can be described by many as the idea that abundance and happiness only happen when you deserve it because of good fortune or how the stars were aligned.  Ever notice how when you feel lucky you are in good spirits and things seem to be happening for you?  It’s not a coincidence when you are feeling great about yourself and certain in your choices that luck suddenly finds you skipping down the road and hands you a present.

You are less likely to find luck when you are depressed or unhappy with your life.  Seems unfair seeing as that luck is needed most when you are at your worst.  You could be smiling walking down the street looking at the flowers growing next to you when all of a sudden you get a shimmer of a lost ring or the glimpse of a $100 bill.   When you are sad and depressed how could you see the ring in the fog of despair and with all those negative thoughts occupying your attention?

So, if you were to believe that luck happens when someone deserves it then you could also believe that the infliction of unluckiness is a result of deserving misfortune because of something you did or attracted.  The reality isn’t that you deserved the misfortune but that the guilt of unlucky situations is a direct reflection of how you view yourself and your situation.

We could say you create your luck and the same can be said about your unlucky days as well. Luck in actuality is always available to you.  It is dependent on you allowing luck to enter your vibration and accepting that you deserve it.  It is seeing yourself as worthy of having good fortune.  Worthiness is a hard thing to accept when you are in the throes of despair.

Just as happiness is a choice so, is luck.  Luck should then be defined as a choice to allow the good fortune that is always flowing to me into my present moment.  It is a blessing and a gift that you can manifest at any time when you are aligned with that emotion through certainty and least resistance. When you feel you are worthy and deserving of good fortunate and free of self inflicted guilt is when you are the most lucky.

We create our “now” and we attract what we feel we deserve.  Try spending a day feeling luck is on your side, that you are 1st picked on luck’s team and say “Just my luck, I chose to deserve it”.

I AM Meditation

I AM Meditation


I like to start my day with a feeling of gratitude and of self.  A great way to do this is by using meditation to clear your mind, connect to your true self and then going into a place of gratitude.  By doing this you can see gratitude from a more emotional stand point then a physical one.  Instead of being grateful for your home and car you can see gratitude for your ability to be happy or even grateful for your breath.

It is then much easier to take that gratitude for the smaller things and create desires that you would like to manifest which are more aligned with what you need rather than what you want.

To start this meditation I use meditation beads and go all the way around the strand to make sure I come up with enough I AM positive statements.  If you don’t have the beads you can place your hands in a Buddha pose like the picture above.  This hand mudra connects the thumbs (which represent the ego) back onto each other as to channel the self into an infinity loop.  The left hand represents the feminine energy and the right hand the masculine energy.  You can choose which hand to place on top of which depending on which energy you feel you need to channel more energy from.

To begin you can put on some meditation music or simply get in position and close your eyes.  Take one deep breath in through the nose, hold it for a few seconds then expel all the air in your lungs.  Do this a few times and then start a steady flow of breath in through the nose and out from the nose.

I start with some easy I AM positive statements:

I AM happy
I AM healthy
I AM well

You can then reach for other words to continue the sequence.  If I find myself searching for words I will go down the alphabet like so:

I AM amazing, I AM beautiful, I AM certain, I AM divine…

When you have either finished going through the beads or the A-Z method you can then move onto the gratitude portion of this meditation.  Like with the previous portion try and start with easy statements of gratitude:

I AM grateful for my ability to be happy
I AM grateful for my constant good health
I AM grateful for my breath

Go through as many as you can think of and keep that steady breath in and out of the nose as you make your statements of gratitude.  Once you feel you are at a point of feeling good and having expressed your gratitude you can then start thinking of things you would like to manifest into your life.

Hopefully at this point you feel great about yourself, the energy of gratitude surrounds you and you can more clearly see your manifestations becoming a reality.


The Self Love Revolution

The Self Love Revolution


The Self Love Revolution

There is a revolution brewing and it’s one to take back the love for ourselves. A battle of sorts between the ego’s view of ourselves vs our true identity. In a world of social media where a lot of people base their lives and their identities on what other people are doing and how great their lives seem to be has created a lack of self love.

Many see the concept of self-love as selfish and self-absorbed. We are often told to give love to others while sacrificing our own need to be loved. Interesting enough many spend their days liking others online posts based around their luxury lifestyles, travels and ego based posts yet if you were to spend time loving yourself it is considered selfish.

The idea of loving yourself has been around a long time but it’s rarely discussed in modern religion and psychological studies. We are told to dedicate yourself fully to your deity or to not be an overly emotional person as this leads to psychological problems and judgment. We live in a society where we hide our emotions and focus on what others view as normal behavior. All the while the hiding of these emotions leads to self pity and depression.

Many people think they know who they are but a lot of the times who you are is based more in ego than true self. Your ego will tell you that you can be defined by a certain race, religion, gender, career title or whatever title you have put on yourself. Your true self though is beyond any of those labels and isn’t afraid to accept and love yourself completely. This is where the concept of self-love comes in and how loving yourself more, helps you love others more.

You then ask how do you love yourself more and how does loving yourself more help others?

Self-love starts with releasing the past that holds you back. Releasing the idea that who you are is based on what choices you have made and viewing yourself based on those choices. The next step would be to start living from a more present moment and allowing life to react to your presence than you reacting to life. Finally it’s about accepting who you are and what you dream of as a reality not based on the ego but based on who you are with your ego self peeled back.

Self-love is about acceptance without outside influences but beyond that accepting that you are bigger than the self you have labeled yourself to be. If you were to label yourself as only being a certain talent or an identity you limit how great you truly are. Loving yourself is not self absorbed its self-important! So important that your emotional and spiritual selves depend on that love to survive. It’s about never using negatives to describe your self and having confidence that you make decisions based on certainty in self not fear of inadequacy. It’s about looking in the mirror and knowing you matter and that you have a purpose. Saying I love myself, I am special and I matter enough to myself to do this for myself. This doesn’t come from ego this comes from spirit. You aren’t telling another person how great you are so, they feel less about themselves.  You are telling yourself how great you are so, others can be motivated to feel that way about themselves as well.

This is where the self-love revolution happens on a bigger scale. When you start to love yourself more and accept your true identity, the way you react to others and the choices you make will then spark that desire in others. When you are happy with life, others will be drawn to your happiness like a magnet and hopefully that happiness will spread like wild fire.   Any revolution always starts with one individual and one individual who fully allows their passion to expand can then affect another individual.

The dark ages of the ego are coming to an end; people are seeing the light in themselves. It’s a time for enlightenment and inner reflection. Go ahead self-love revolutionists, start the process today with the self-love salute by putting your hands on your chest, over your heart and looking in the mirror and shouting out … I LOVE YOU!


What are affirmations and how can you use them to heal your past?

What are affirmations and how can you use them to heal your past?


What are affirmations and how can you use them to heal your past?

Below is an excerpt from my upcoming book “Falling in Love with Your True Self – Using self love to have healthier relationships, attract more abundance and finding your Divine Purpose”.

What are affirmations?

An affirmation can be described as any encouraging statement that is affirmative or believed to be true. Affirmations are a way to overcome the subconscious mind that often tells us something bad will happen, that we need to focus on the past and that we don’t deserve happiness. Think of affirmations as your spiritual boot camp drill sergeant who you know wouldn’t want you to eat that slice of cake but wouldn’t punish you for it either. “I WILL LOVE MYSELF MORE YES, DRILL SERGEANT”! He’s there to help you get into spiritual shape and feel better about yourself but only when you were ready to allow his help.

Earlier we worked on an exercise of using past statements and turning them into affirmations that can help you move past those experiences. Affirmations can be a strong tool in your self love toolbox. They are accessible at any time and can be tailored to your specific situation. To be fully effective they should to be believed and practiced from a place of certainty.

The idea of believing something when you feel you are in a place of complete opposition to the affirmation can be plain difficult to comprehend. While your spiritual drill sergeant wants you to feel better and sees that you have the choice to be happy sometimes we want to tell him “listen you’re crazy and this one slice of cake won’t hurt”. The reality is when we are in that place of not feeling good about ourselves, the self loathing can feel safe and even comfortable to many people. This is where the old adage “fake it till you make it” can be the solution. Just as when you put effort, thought and repetition into feeling bad about yourself the same can happen by repeating an affirmation.

A great way to accomplish this is to write your affirmations out onto a sticky note and place it somewhere you will see it often. I like to put these notes in my wallet, on the bathroom mirror, and even on my dashboard in my car. At times when I wouldn’t think to read the affirmation it’s there in my daily life to remind me of something positive. Even if I don’t feel I’m in the emotional state of that affirmation the constant presence of it in my daily life slowly expands into my present conscious beliefs through repetition.

Having it on your bathroom mirror serves another purpose, it allows you to see yourself repeating the affirmation. This might seem silly at first and can even feel uncomfortable but as you do it more the image of yourself exposed only to yourself and stating something positive about yourself helps you move into that feeling wholeheartedly. If you feel uncomfortable doing the mirror work laugh at yourself in the mirror be silly, make faces and try reading the affirmation again.

When you laugh you are more connected to your true self. Your true self is never unhappy, worried or sad. When you are laughing, passionate about something and fully open to an experience , that is your true self coming through. Affirmations are a way for you experience what your true self has waiting for you that you haven’t actualized yet because of resistance. When you experience joy and laughter you take away the power your ego has over you achieving the affirmation. Faking it till you make it is a tool to overcome a strong ego but the reality is when you connect to your true self there is no faking it, you can only experience well being.

Before we go into how to use affirmations it’s important to understand how to create them and which ones can serve you the best. While an affirmation can be anything that encourages positive feeling within yourself for the purpose of self love it should be focused on just the self. If we write out affirmations about someone else influencing your life you shift that self love energy into one that is dependent on another’s feelings or thoughts. An example would be “I am at peace with who I am” vs “Others see that I am at peace with myself”. When it comes to self healing affirmations you should focus your feelings to just the way you want to feel about yourself.

When you come up with the affirmations that can help you the most I encourage you to think of where you are lacking self love in your current emotional state. If you put a lot of thought into past relationships focus your affirmations on how you are in relation to yourself. If financial issues plague your daily thoughts create affirmations based on financial security. The affirmations you choose should be simple and short so you can set the vibration of that belief without too much effort.

The other important thing to know when creating affirmations is how you use the words “I AM”. Often I hear people describe themselves as “I am sad”, “I am broke”, “I am fat”. When you say I am anything you are sending out a message not only to others but to yourself of how you feel about yourself. Anytime you say “I AM,” you are creating your reality. The reality is you are never sad, broke or fat you are just experiencing that emotion or belief but you are not those things. One can experience sadness but one is not the essence of sadness. Sadness does not define who you truly are as a person. When you say I am sad you are allowing yourself to believe you are that sadness and you are sending a vibration of attracting more sadness. The words I AM are one of the most powerful two words you can use. There are many books based on the I AM theory which can be traced back to the name God told Moses he was when asked from the burning bush. For the purpose of this book and in relation to affirmations lets focus on keeping the words that follow I AM as something positive and uplifting.

Knowing now that we can write affirmations hat focus on our own self love, that we use only positive words after I AM, it’s also important to finish the affirmation with words that bring that feeling of certainty. An example of this can be “I AM happy” vs “I AM happy no matter what”. The second affirmation leaves no room for doubt and doesn’t allow uncertainty when you are allowing yourself to believe the affirmation. Certainty is a feeling we want to allow into our thoughts whenever we are coming from a place of self love. When there is no wavering in your belief of how you feel about yourself its an incredible place to be.

Using affirmations to let go of past thinking 

Knowing the power of affirmations, lets start to create ones that can help you let go of those thoughts of past mistakes or experiences that are holding you back so you can move into a more joyous present moment. Start with affirmations that relate to the things that you worry about most or that you haven’t been able to move past.

Let’s use the example of a past relationship you haven’t been able to move on from. We could use the tools I suggested earlier and create affirmations that allow you to feel better about yourself and that don’t focus too much on what isn’t in your current life.

“I AM at peace with my past relationships and ONLY attract people that are aligned with my best self”

This affirmation you can see doesn’t focus on what went wrong, name the person you haven’t moved on from and brings in a feeling of certainty with the word ONLY while utilizing a positive I AM statement. If we were to say “I AM at peace with my breakup from Bob” you would be bringing in the energy of that person while you could be attracting healing and self love to yourself that shouldn’t be affected by Bob anymore. Bob obviously didn’t make you feel too great so why attract more of that energy into your life. If you were to say “I AM at peace with not feeling abandoned” you are attracting a feeling that you could be abandoned by another person or reliving that feeling of abandonment that you allowed yourself to feel in the past. The goal of affirmations are to bring about a better feeling than where you currently stand in relation to the emotion you want to feel.

Once you have your affirmations created write them down on sticky notes or even type them on your mobile device and set a reminder throughout the day that alerts you of the affirmation. I like to set alarm reminders and put the affirmations as the note in the alarm. I have a sticky note on my bathroom mirror that changes week to week but reminds me of how I would like to feel. The first day I have the affirmation up I can read it out loud but don’t always belief it immediately. I find that after days of reading it and feeling it to be true that it becomes a core belief and allows me to attract that statement into my life more easily. I encourage you to start to believe the affirmations you write out for it to really effect you in a positive way and to heal from what’s holding you back in life.

Identifying your wounds to release the past

Identifying your wounds to release the past

Happy future sad past

This is another exercise from my upcoming book “Falling in Love with Your True Self – Using self love to have healthier relationships, attract more abundance and finding your divine purpose”.  This exercise can be used when you have people, situations, and experiences from your past that are holding you from moving into a happier present moment.

Identifying your wounds

To begin the process of healing your past you first need to identify what your wounds are.  Your wounds can be described as anything that has happened to you that you haven’t forgiven, let go of or accepted as not affecting yourself today.

Carrying around that hurt day to day weighs you down like baggage that you are barely pulling behind you.  Decisions you make, the way you trust people, the way you identify yourself can be defined by those unhealed wounds.  It is difficult not to have those thoughts influence your daily thinking based on what someone did to you or what mistake you made.

Sometimes it is easy to list out what those wounds are, other times they subconsciously come to the surface during times of stress.  Below is an exercise to help you figure out what are those things that hold you down the most.

What doesn’t make me feel good Exercise

For this exercise let’s not focus on specific details of the hurt, lets focus on the way it makes you feel.  We don’t want to draw more energy into something that holds you back and makes you feel bad.  We want to identify the feeling so that you can work to release and replace those feelings with better ones.

Cut up several pieces of paper, however many you think you would like to list out.  On one side write down what is holding you back or that bothers you and move onto any other strong feelings that surface.  An event or a person that you feel has done something that you can’t let go of is a good example.  When you are ready pick up one that you can associate a base feeling about the situation or person.  On the back of it write down words that you feel when you think of that situation or person.  Here are some examples:

Childhood – Unappreciated, Withdrawn, Unloved
Ex Boyfriend (can put a name) – Insecure, Untrustworthy, Abandoned
A specific past job – Unsuccessful, Failure, Noncommittal

The purpose of this exercise is for you to find what you are holding on to and then associating it with an emotion.  When you start to see the emotion it is easier to see the origin of that emotion.  We can say someone did something to us in our past and hold onto anger and distrust.  Once we bring it back to how we feel about that person we can begin to release that anger as we can take ownership for the emotion not the situation.

Using affirmations we can then turn those emotions into something more positive.  Lets take the example of a friend who did something that hurt you and you are no longer friends.

Sally – Betrayal

You could then create an affirmation by bringing the emotion back to yourself and offering a more positive emotion:

“I can only betray myself, I only attract loyal people into my life”

Use this affirmation any time the negative one about that situation happens and see how you slowly release the power that past feeling gave you.  Once you feel the affirmation has a stronger feeling than the emotion you wrote on the back of the past hurt you can then burn that piece of paper in a bowl and fully release the power it held over you and move forward with the affirmative statement.


Where am I to Where I want to be Exercise

Where am I to Where I want to be Exercise


This exercise is from my upcoming book “Falling in Love with Your True Self – Using self love to have healthier relationships, attract more abundance and finding your divine purpose”.  This exercise can be used when you have set a goal but are unsure where you stand in relation to that goal.  This gives you a starting or continuing point to achieve your desire.

Where am I to Where I want to be Exercise

On a blank sheet of paper make two columns.  The first one will be what you do want and the second column will be why this step is necessary for your goals completion.  This is sort of a pro and cons look at a thought to deconstruct it’s purpose.  Lets make this desire/thought something smaller so that you can see a solution without too much effort.

As an example I will use the desire of wanting to be able to cook a soufflé perfectly.  A soufflé is a good example as it is possible by anybody, it’s something that I think most people like to eat and its a nice accomplishment when done properly.  I say perfectly because if any of you have attempted a soufflé you know its either done perfectly or it is not enjoyable.

To start make side by side columns the first being your desire and the second being what feeling that desire brings you.

I want to cook a soufflé perfectly Cooking a soufflé brings me happiness

Next under your desire column let’s list some thoughts of how you think you would achieve this desire.

I need to get a cookbook on making soufflés 
I need to get ingredients to make a soufflé 
I need to practice making a soufflé 
If my soufflé didn’t work out try a different receipe
Keep making soufflés till they are perfect

After that let’s add some thoughts next to each to map out a plan of why you need to do any of those things.

I want to cook a soufflé perfectly  Cooking a soufflé brings me happiness
I need to get a cookbook on making soufflés  The cookbook will show me a step by step seeing I have never made a soufflé 
I need to get ingredients to make a soufflé  Without the ingredients I would not have anything to make the soufflé 
I need to practice making a soufflé  Practicing making them will help me get better at perfecting them
If my soufflé didn’t work out try a different receipe A different approach might be easier for me
Keep making soufflés till they are perfect If I keep making them eventually I will perfect them

Keep this chart and if you have achieved any of these things you can cross them out.  You can use this exercise as a vision board for a specific desire.  The point of the exercise is to show you a plan of how to achieve a desire.  If you waited all day for the soufflé to be done but didn’t even look up the recipe how could you be depressed you can’t make a perfect soufflé?  Listing out why you need to do each of the steps allows you to see a clearer path for how you will get to your goal.  You can use this exercise with anything in your life be it love, career or money.

I want to cook a soufflé perfectly  Cooking a soufflé brings me happiness
I need to get a cookbook on making soufflés  The cookbook will show me a step by step seeing I have never made a soufflé 
I need to get ingredients to make a soufflé  Without the ingredients I would not have anything to make the soufflé 
I need to practice making a soufflé  Practicing making them will help me get better at perfecting them
If my soufflé didn’t work out try a different receipe A different approach might be easier for me
Keep making soufflés till they are perfect If I keep making them eventually I will perfect them

If you cross out things you have done to get there or even just writing it all out will show you where you are to where you want to be in your life.  Knowing where you stand allows you the ability to gain momentum towards a desired outcome.  Once you have the feelings behind a desire written down you can more easily experience the feeling of that desire to complete its manifestation.  Feeling how it is to experience a desire is a much stronger feeling than feeling you don’t have that desire or can’t achieve it.

Try this exercise with a few of the things in your life you feel you don’t have and see how you feel if you hold the idea of it happening vs the idea of it not being possible.