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The Self Love Revolution

The Self Love Revolution

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The Self Love Revolution

There is a revolution brewing and it’s one to take back the love for ourselves. A battle of sorts between the ego’s view of ourselves vs our true identity. In a world of social media where a lot of people base their lives and their identities on what other people are doing and how great their lives seem to be has created a lack of self love.

Many see the concept of self-love as selfish and self-absorbed. We are often told to give love to others while sacrificing our own need to be loved. Interesting enough many spend their days liking others online posts based around their luxury lifestyles, travels and ego based posts yet if you were to spend time loving yourself it is considered selfish.

The idea of loving yourself has been around a long time but it’s rarely discussed in modern religion and psychological studies. We are told to dedicate yourself fully to your deity or to not be an overly emotional person as this leads to psychological problems and judgment. We live in a society where we hide our emotions and focus on what others view as normal behavior. All the while the hiding of these emotions leads to self pity and depression.

Many people think they know who they are but a lot of the times who you are is based more in ego than true self. Your ego will tell you that you can be defined by a certain race, religion, gender, career title or whatever title you have put on yourself. Your true self though is beyond any of those labels and isn’t afraid to accept and love yourself completely. This is where the concept of self-love comes in and how loving yourself more, helps you love others more.

You then ask how do you love yourself more and how does loving yourself more help others?

Self-love starts with releasing the past that holds you back. Releasing the idea that who you are is based on what choices you have made and viewing yourself based on those choices. The next step would be to start living from a more present moment and allowing life to react to your presence than you reacting to life. Finally it’s about accepting who you are and what you dream of as a reality not based on the ego but based on who you are with your ego self peeled back.

Self-love is about acceptance without outside influences but beyond that accepting that you are bigger than the self you have labeled yourself to be. If you were to label yourself as only being a certain talent or an identity you limit how great you truly are. Loving yourself is not self absorbed its self-important! So important that your emotional and spiritual selves depend on that love to survive. It’s about never using negatives to describe your self and having confidence that you make decisions based on certainty in self not fear of inadequacy. It’s about looking in the mirror and knowing you matter and that you have a purpose. Saying I love myself, I am special and I matter enough to myself to do this for myself. This doesn’t come from ego this comes from spirit. You aren’t telling another person how great you are so, they feel less about themselves.  You are telling yourself how great you are so, others can be motivated to feel that way about themselves as well.

This is where the self-love revolution happens on a bigger scale. When you start to love yourself more and accept your true identity, the way you react to others and the choices you make will then spark that desire in others. When you are happy with life, others will be drawn to your happiness like a magnet and hopefully that happiness will spread like wild fire.   Any revolution always starts with one individual and one individual who fully allows their passion to expand can then affect another individual.

The dark ages of the ego are coming to an end; people are seeing the light in themselves. It’s a time for enlightenment and inner reflection. Go ahead self-love revolutionists, start the process today with the self-love salute by putting your hands on your chest, over your heart and looking in the mirror and shouting out … I LOVE YOU!

 

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Tao Te Ching 58th Verse

Tao Te Ching 58th Verse

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58th Verse
When the ruler knows his own heart,
the people are simple and pure.
When he meddles with their lives,
they become restless and disturbed.

Bad fortune is what good fortune leans on;
good fortune is what bad fortune hides in.
Who knows the ultimate end of this process?
Is there no norm of right?
Yet what is normal soon becomes abnormal;
peoples’s confusion is indeed long-standing.

Thus the master is content to serve as an example
and not to impose his will.
He is pointed but does not pierce;
he straightens but does not disrupt;
he illuminates but does not dazzle.

This verse Lao-tzu is showing us the importance of how we perceive situations and people in our lives and how we react to them.  “When the ruler knows his own heart, the people are simple and pure”.  This is because when you are connected to your true self and know yourself, you aren’t directing those beliefs onto other people.

You can be pointed but no pierce, illuminated but not dazzling.  When you follow your beliefs and what guides your life there is no need to dazzle for everyone to see and agree with that belief.  Your thoughts and beliefs are shaped by who you are, experiences around you and the thoughts in your mind.

That view of the world can change at any given time just as fortune or bad fortune can.  Think about a situation in your life where everything seems to be going bad.  As you attract more of those thoughts of misfortune the more you attract.  That streak of bad situations can easily change as can your view of why its happening or why it won’t happen.

“People’s confusion is indeed long-standing”.  Interesting how bad situations linger longer than good ones do.  You imposing your belief on someone else will be remembered longer than a good deed you did for that same person.

Live your life and follow the direction it is meant to flow.  Follow your beliefs without ego and people with similar beliefs will gravitate to your confidence and your good will without you deliberately showcasing the way you think they should think.

 

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10th Verse Tao Te Ching

10th Verse Tao Te Ching

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Carrying body and soul
and embracing the one,can you avoid separation?

Can you let your body become
as supple as a newborn child’s?In the opening and shutting of heaven’s gate,
can you play the feminine part?

Can you love your people
and govern your domain
without self-importance?

Giving birth and nourishing;
having, yet not possessing;working, yet not taking credit;
leading without controlling or dominating.

One who heeds this power
brings the Tao to this very earth.
This is the primal virtue.

This verse talks about seeing yourself in everyone.  Specially if you feel you are judging them.  Feeling the oneness in all your encounters opens you up to see a different perspective than you would if you separate yourself from others.

This separation goes beyond just people but also your possessions.  Taking pleasure in your possessions without becoming attached to them.  At the end of the day you own no one and nothing.  Everything in life is flowing and changing.  These possessions don’t define you just as a person does not make you who you are.

Allow yourself to observe and be happy with your “things” and the people in your life.  Living in the present knowing that life is change and evolution.

Practice separating the duality and be one with all things and people.

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